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Old 03-12-2007, 10:05 PM
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Never had bad sex....some has just been better than others
Sadly, I've had a few if, given the option, I would have traded for a sundae.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:07 PM
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Sadly, I've had a few if, given the option, I would have traded for a sundae.

Well...put that way....I have had a few I would trade for a Peanut Butter Cup Blizzard....or, maybe a Tazo Chai bar
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:10 PM
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Sadly, I've had a few if, given the option, I would have traded for a sundae.
WHat kind of Sunday?
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:13 PM
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WHat kind of Sunday?
Well, not a vanilla one.

Thanks, Kev, thanks a whole heck of a lot for brining up the Chai bars. Now I'm trying to decide whether I should go back out, take the subway and go get one. Curse you and your power of suggestion!

(Seeing as how, with the husband in Florida, that's what I have to settle for. )
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:16 PM
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Well, not a vanilla one.

Thanks, Kev, thanks a whole heck of a lot for brining up the Chai bars. Now I'm trying to decide whether I should go back out, take the subway and go get one. Curse you and your power of suggestion!

(Seeing as how, with the husband in Florida, that's what I have to settle for. )

I am working there tomorrow. Must be there at 5:30am I am dreaming of my Iced Quad Venti Non-Fat White Chocolate Mocha and Tazo Chai bar to get me going when I get there...

Should keep me wired until I get off work. I love the free drinks on days I work
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:21 PM
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Married at 27....separated at 30 and divorced at 31. LOVED being a husband and and step-father and loved the idea of being a family.

But since then...I am jaded towards the whole thing. Most likely will never get married again. Don't need the drama.

My husband said the same thing Kev. Then he met me and he couldn't help himself...

The right woman is out there.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:24 PM
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My husband said the same thing Kev. Then he met me and he couldn't help himself...

The right woman is out there.

She better hopes she finds me then Erica....cause I sure as hell aint looking for her.

Sarah is the perfect woman in my life right now. Great snuggler, happy as sh*t to see me when I get home, and never gives me grief.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:26 PM
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She better hopes she finds me then Erica....cause I sure as hell aint looking for her.

Sarah is the perfect woman in my life right now. Great snuggler, happy as sh*t to see me when I get home, and never gives me grief.

I have to admit SOMETIMES I do like Buffy and Baron more than my husband.

He is in the other room watching Borat for the third time. Why he likes that movie I have no CLUE! I liked Jackazz better.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:29 PM
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She better hopes she finds me then Erica....cause I sure as hell aint looking for her.

Sarah is the perfect woman in my life right now. Great snuggler, happy as sh*t to see me when I get home, and never gives me grief.
You're just saying that because you can get a dog spayed so you never have to deal with her PMS.

Seriously, it's when you stop looking that people start appearing. It'll happen when it's time. But don't mention spaying on the first date.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:32 PM
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I have to admit SOMETIMES I do like Buffy and Baron more than my husband.
Yeah, and I don't understand why my husband doesn't react like the horses do when I pat him on the neck and tell him he's a good boy.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:34 PM
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You're just saying that because you can get a dog spayed so you never have to deal with her PMS.

Seriously, it's when you stop looking that people start appearing. It'll happen when it's time. But don't mention spaying on the first date.
haven't been looking for about 3 years now . Been talking with a wonderful young lady from work....but I just refuse to fish off the company pier. Simply not worth it.

If Charlize finally comes around...and realizes that in her heart of hearts...that she DOES love me, then I would marry her.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:38 PM
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haven't been looking for about 3 years now . Been talking with a wonderful young lady from work....but I just refuse to fish off the company pier. Simply not worth it.

If Charlize finally comes around...and realizes that in her heart of hearts...that she DOES love me, then I would marry her.
And yet I seem to recall you dating during that 3 year period, so clearly your not looking is still attracting some fishies.

We've had three marriages so far at the zoo between coworkers. One had to be kept secret since he was her boss! Such drama.
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And yet I seem to recall you dating during that 3 year period, so clearly your not looking is still attracting some fishies.

We've had three marriages so far at the zoo between coworkers. One had to be kept secret since he was her boss! Such drama.

1 time....1 damn time
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Old 03-13-2007, 07:24 AM
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Old 03-13-2007, 08:19 AM
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they said about a month ago that a study showed that married men get 'lucky' far more often then single men--that the idea that singles go out and hook up constantly is untrue.
as for the commitment--too many people settle. then when they get sick of their partners quirks, they bail-or women marry men who are no good, and vice versa. again, they realize they got what they knew all along they were getting-and he/she won't change. then there are the unhappy people who think it's up to their spouse to make them so. mix in someone who thinks you HAVE to have somone to be happy-and bam, multiple marriage and divorce.

you have to find the right person for you. not the sort of right person, or the almost right, or she'd be ok if this happened person. just think, if they have things that bug you when you're dating--how the heck are you not going to be bugged by it when you're living together??

as for living together being the same-i disagree completely. that isn't a commitment. i don't think you should get married only to have kids-but if you are going to have kids, then you absolutely should be married. kids are best off being raised by two parents in a committed relationship.

and i don't think it's hard work like some say-it might be hard sometimes to bite your tongue when you want to say something rotten. just treat your husband like a king, he'll kill himself treating you like a queen!
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Old 03-13-2007, 09:46 AM
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There is no secret. And there is no right or wrong way to live your life.

You make choices, things happen -- seen and unforseen -- and you deal with it. Sometimes the things that happen are wonderful and life is great. Many times, bad things happen and you work it through. Sometimes it takes years. But those are the times that in great part define you and I believe make life worth living.

I know people who are married and have some messed up children. I also know many single parents who have great kids. I think the notion of the traditional nuclear family being a prerequisite to having good children is nonsense.

We married young and had our children young. We got lucky and it all worked out. But then again we never traveled as a couple, one of us always worked on a weekend day to make ends meet for five years and our kids were teenagers before they realized that not all family vacations were spent in a tent.

You make your choices and you live your life. No one has a crystal ball.
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Old 03-13-2007, 10:30 AM
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they said about a month ago that a study showed that married men get 'lucky' far more often then single men--that the idea that singles go out and hook up constantly is untrue.
as for the commitment--too many people settle. then when they get sick of their partners quirks, they bail-or women marry men who are no good, and vice versa. again, they realize they got what they knew all along they were getting-and he/she won't change. then there are the unhappy people who think it's up to their spouse to make them so. mix in someone who thinks you HAVE to have somone to be happy-and bam, multiple marriage and divorce.

you have to find the right person for you. not the sort of right person, or the almost right, or she'd be ok if this happened person. just think, if they have things that bug you when you're dating--how the heck are you not going to be bugged by it when you're living together??

as for living together being the same-i disagree completely. that isn't a commitment. i don't think you should get married only to have kids-but if you are going to have kids, then you absolutely should be married. kids are best off being raised by two parents in a committed relationship.

and i don't think it's hard work like some say-it might be hard sometimes to bite your tongue when you want to say something rotten. just treat your husband like a king, he'll kill himself treating you like a queen!
I think the biggest thing you hit on here was people who expect their spouses to make them happy. Not the spouse's job; it's the individual's job.

BUT- I think there's also a danger in being too exacting in what you expect. Maybe there are some people out there who like every single thing their partners do, but most people I know (myself included) can list things their partners do that annoy them. But I don't know that any of these people (myself included) would change those things about their partners, either. I figure, you take the whole package, and the things that can get under your skin are often the things that help shape the things you like. To some extent, we all do settle, because no one is ever exactly everything you want- I don't think that could ever be found in a single person. Which is good- perfect is boring. But a lot of people can be everything one needs.

I don't believe in soul mates- I think there are any number of people who are "right" for each other, just each in a different way. And I think a lot has to do with timing- two dear friends are getting married now whom I think would not be had they started dating a year earlier- they met when they were both ready to be done dating.

AND- I think a lot of people really don't understand that the butterfly obsessive happy lust feeling doesn't last, and that it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the relationship. I have a friend with a lovely husband and baby who panicked because she developed a crush on a coworker. I had to tell her to stop freaking; she was married, not dead, and it's normal to get crushes. And that it would wear off. And it did, with no harm done.

I think the living together/not living together thing varies- I'm a fan of it, because, while we had a lovely, lovely wedding, afterwards, when people asked me if I felt different being married, I honestly said, "No."

What's the old saying? " Women marry men, hoping to change them. Men marry women, hoping they will never change. Both are inevitably disappointed."

That said, I like being married. It's really the original "friends with benefits," when you think about it.
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Married 24 years, Lots of ups, lots of downs. She's a crazy red head and it's been the best pain in the ass I've ever had and would not trade it for the world.
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Old 03-13-2007, 06:41 PM
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May will be 25 yrs. Some losin streaks but overall I am way ahead.
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The 25yr group was kind of in a sweeter spot with regard to marriage....The last 15 years has seen much more carnage in the marriage market. Its easy to stay together when you've reached 20 yrs. Where else are you going to go? But the newer group seems unlikely to make it to the long ones. Just 2 months ago was that article that for the first time in U.S. history there are more single women than married women. Tells you all you need to know.
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