DT Gals: Attracted to 'Bad Boys'?

[GenuineRisk]

Kev, you weren't kidding; this is a great thread (it was great chatting tonight, by the way, as always! The future love of your life will be lucky to get such a great conversationalist. )

I think the Bad Boy thing is something young women go through- maybe it's that there's something so very attractive in someone who doesn't seem to care whether he has you or not (so if you can just get him to fall in love with you, you've really accomplished something!), maybe it's the dark, sad secret you just know he's hiding (because you want to be Florence Nightengale, oh yes you do), maybe it's the "He'd be so great if just this one thing was fixed" (because you've confused a boyfriend with a fixer-upper apartment). And all that unattainability makes your heart pound (I read somewhere that infatuation is the intense desire to spend all your time around someone you know nothing about, and I think that's as good a description as I've ever read).

BUT- I think sometimes (many times) what we're attracted to on a gut, irrational level is perhaps not what is good for us, because, especially for women, on some level, we're trying to fix something else from our lives through our relationship. Lord knows I was going against some bad habits when I started dating my husband.

Kev, Randall, you guys are undervalued stocks. As the girls around you get a little older, and a little more tired of breaking their own hearts, you'll get grabbed up by someone who knows a good thing when she sees one and her friends will spend the rest of their lives saying, "Why can't I find someone like him?" Well, you could have, sweetie. But you were too busy breaking your heart over Mr. Dark and Brooding. Tough.

As for why men want bimbos, I think some guys just don't really want a partnership; they want eye candy. Hey, if that makes them happy, fine. If they're rich, they'll be able to get their eye candy forever, and as long as they don't delude themselves into thinking their eye candy is with them for anything other than their wallets, they'll be perfectly happy (I'm always amused by rich old guys who are shocked, shocked, when their young wives cheat on them. Come on; you got her taut skin and she got a Mercedes. Don't think she's with you for your personality. You're not with her for hers).

Me, I figure we're all eventually going to end up old and wrinkly and I want to still like talking to the person I'm old and wrinkly with, since conversation may be all we'll have left!

"He's got his arm around every man's dream
And crumbs in his beard from the seafood special
Oh can't you see my world is falling apart?
Baby, please, leave the biker, leave the biker, break his heart."

[GPK]

Originally Posted by GenuineRisk

Kev, you weren't kidding; this is a great thread (it was great chatting tonight, by the way, as always! The future love of your life will be lucky to get such a great conversationalist. )

I think the Bad Boy thing is something young women go through- maybe it's that there's something so very attractive in someone who doesn't seem to care whether he has you or not (so if you can just get him to fall in love with you, you've really accomplished something!), maybe it's the dark, sad secret you just know he's hiding (because you want to be Florence Nightengale, oh yes you do), maybe it's the "He'd be so great if just this one thing was fixed" (because you've confused a boyfriend with a fixer-upper apartment). And all that unattainability makes your heart pound (I read somewhere that infatuation is the intense desire to spend all your time around someone you know nothing about, and I think that's as good a description as I've ever read).

BUT- I think sometimes (many times) what we're attracted to on a gut, irrational level is perhaps not what is good for us, because, especially for women, on some level, we're trying to fix something else from our lives through our relationship. Lord knows I was going against some bad habits when I started dating my husband.

Kev, Randall, you guys are undervalued stocks. As the girls around you get a little older, and a little more tired of breaking their own hearts, you'll get grabbed up by someone who knows a good thing when she sees one and her friends will spend the rest of their lives saying, "Why can't I find someone like him?" Well, you could have, sweetie. But you were too busy breaking your heart over Mr. Dark and Brooding. Tough.

As for why men want bimbos, I think some guys just don't really want a partnership; they want eye candy. Hey, if that makes them happy, fine. If they're rich, they'll be able to get their eye candy forever, and as long as they don't delude themselves into thinking their eye candy is with them for anything other than their wallets, they'll be perfectly happy (I'm always amused by rich old guys who are shocked, shocked, when their young wives cheat on them. Come on; you got her taut skin and she got a Mercedes. Don't think she's with you for your personality. You're not with her for hers).

Me, I figure we're all eventually going to end up old and wrinkly and I want to still like talking to the person I'm old and wrinkly with, since conversation may be all we'll have left!

"He's got his arm around every man's dream
And crumbs in his beard from the seafood special
Oh can't you see my world is falling apart?
Baby, please, leave the biker, leave the biker, break his heart."

Thanks love...always a pleasure talking to you as well. Your actress voice leaves me breathless everytime

[GenuineRisk]

Originally Posted by GPK

Thanks love...always a pleasure talking to you as well. Your actress voice leaves me breathless everytime

And your handicapper voice leaves me with an intense desire to take my paycheck and go to the OTB...

[GPK]

Originally Posted by Samarta

Damn, how in the world did I miss this thread?!?!?!? I just read it all and let me tell you there is some funny stuff. Man if this entire group ever got together it would be a riot.....But Kev, I gotta ask you.....and let me preface this by saying you know that I'm a phone call away. If you ever need anything I'm there....so next time you're getting jacked by a golf bag, don't do anything that could ruin your bad boy image, give Sam a call and I will come to Roanoke and put it back on the display for you....

I totally had the situation under control....it was a sneak attack. Other golf bags were distracting me and then he got me. It was a coup attempt to take over the golf shop...

[GPK]

Originally Posted by GenuineRisk

And your handicapper voice leaves me with an intense desire to take my paycheck and go to the OTB...

Save em all up for Toga opening

[GenuineRisk]

Originally Posted by GPK

Save em all up for Toga opening

I so cannot wait!

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by GenuineRisk

I so cannot wait!

Me either... I'm pretty sure I'm going to go. I'm waiting for Southwest to lower their fares and then I'll book my flight and car.

[magic_idol]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXEg37FwTto

[hoovesupsideyourhead]

mrs hooves luckly bagged a winner....

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Cajungator...........How ya like this song by a badboy? LOL....You know ya got a good voice when ya can get away with these lyrics.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuKQ-N6HSWI

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

Cajungator...........How ya like this song by a badboy? LOL....You know ya got a good voice when ya can get away with these lyrics.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuKQ-N6HSWI

Wish I could listen... youtube is blocked at work. UGH.

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Wish I could listen... youtube is blocked at work. UGH.

"Girl take it slow........I'm a let you decide the tempo.."-Nelson de Freitas

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

"Girl take it slow........I'm a let you decide the tempo.."-Nelson de Freitas

So many ways to go with that one, Scuds... wow.

[jman5581]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

"Girl take it slow........I'm a let you decide the tempo.."-Nelson de Freitas

That's just a horrible, horrible song. Hope it never makes it off of youtube.

[jman5581]

I mean, who tries to rhyme 9 syllables with 4?

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Originally Posted by jman5581

I mean, who tries to rhyme 9 syllables with 4?

Actually,he will do just fine with that particular song.His voice,and the melody of the verse are both excellent.The lyrics are not gunna kill that song.If you have a good enough melody(and this does) then the song will be successful.If it had a better chorus,and lyrics,then it could crossover.The reason I put it on here,is because it is a beautiful melody,and a very pure voice.Obviously,he is a badboy.They wanted to know why that women like badboys.......Well,I am pretty sure that with his voice,he can seduce almost any of them.


Cajungirl,the link I am gunna post will let you hear enough of the song,but the video is actually an important part (cute couple........again this is a conflicting thing...a pretty videoto go with badboy lyrics.) The song is called "DEEPER".................LOL.

http://cdbaby.com/cd/nelsonfreitas

[jman5581]

I agree with you about the voice, but I think the message you're trying to get across is better explained by Track 12!!! Guy's got a one-track mind!!! You gotta love it. I don't see much mystique to him, but I like some of the beats and melodies. Thanks for sharin'.

[SCUDSBROTHER]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MgNOGHkbBoI

He is the lead singer in this group here.PRETTY SONG...Again the verses are better than the chorus(although it works enough.) That is quite a voice.Badboy has got extreme gifts.Weird .......very few people can say the word thigh in a song without turning most people off.

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by SCUDSBROTHER

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MgNOGHkbBoI

He is the lead singer in this group here.PRETTY SONG...Again the verses are better than the chorus(although it works enough.) That is quite a voice.Badboy has got extreme gifts.Weird .......very few people can say the word thigh in a song without turning most people off.

See, he does absolutely nothing for me... LOL

This guy DOES... I went to high school with him and Joey Fatone and he's got an amazing voice:

http://www.luisfonsi.com/

[SCUDSBROTHER]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

See, he does absolutely nothing for me... LOL

This guy DOES... I went to high school with him and Joey Fatone and he's got an amazing voice:

http://www.luisfonsi.com/

1) I think Enrique has a better tone,and probably writes better(more commercial) songs too.That doesn't mean he is a better singer than this guy you went to High School with.It means that for the types of songs they sing(and their audience....90% female,) Enrique would be the choice amongst those people(by a large margin.) They have done a really good job at figuring out that Enrique has what they call a "cry" in his singing voice,and they have gone to the bank with that.For the types of songs these 2 sing,I think he has a built in advantage there.The reason your guy isn't known much here is more about the songs though.Let's face it..Marc Anthony has made money here with some decent songs(he has very mediocre tone.....your guy there is a lot better than Anthony.)I don't know if your guy is singing in English anyways.Regardless...........he needs better songs.So does the Badboy I wrote about above.He has 1 song on that album("Deeper.")The others aren't important commercially.Your guy needs better songs(they are o.k.,but nothing that could be a crossover.)On the other hand ,we know about ENRIQUE IG. because he has commercial songs.He,or somebody he works with writes songs that sell albums.They know what their audience likes.This guy Nelson has written a decent song.It is somewhat commercially viable.That video will get some play on a Music Video Station here.No matter how good or bad his voice is,if he didn't write a good melody in the verse of that "deeper" song,then his album wouldn't sell half as much as it will.