Why Get Married? - Page 4

GPK · #61 03-13-2007, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by randallscott35

The 25yr group was kind of in a sweeter spot with regard to marriage....The last 15 years has seen much more carnage in the marriage market. Its easy to stay together when you've reached 20 yrs. Where else are you going to go? But the newer group seems unlikely to make it to the long ones. Just 2 months ago was that article that for the first time in U.S. history there are more single women than married women. Tells you all you need to know.

Nobody fights for marraiges to last anymore Rand. Divorce is viewed as the easy way out.

Danzig · #62 03-13-2007, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by SentToStud

There is no secret. And there is no right or wrong way to live your life.

You make choices, things happen -- seen and unforseen -- and you deal with it. Sometimes the things that happen are wonderful and life is great. Many times, bad things happen and you work it through. Sometimes it takes years. But those are the times that in great part define you and I believe make life worth living.

I know people who are married and have some messed up children. I also know many single parents who have great kids. I think the notion of the traditional nuclear family being a prerequisite to having good children is nonsense.

We married young and had our children young. We got lucky and it all worked out. But then again we never traveled as a couple, one of us always worked on a weekend day to make ends meet for five years and our kids were teenagers before they realized that not all family vacations were spent in a tent.

You make your choices and you live your life. No one has a crystal ball.

yeah, there are single people that have good kids, and married that don't. having both parents isn't always a good thing (just ask my husband!) but i think in most cases, if both parents can be involved in a good way, that's the best thing.

tony and i also married young, had our kids young, and we both know we're lucky as hell. but then, a lot of people think you make your own luck....we also worked around the kids when they were young so that they never went to daycare.

but i think more than anything, people need to just grow up and take responsibility-no matter what the issues are, and we all have them, or had them in the past, you have to make the most of things-not just make excuses.

Danzig · #63 03-13-2007, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by randallscott35

The 25yr group was kind of in a sweeter spot with regard to marriage....The last 15 years has seen much more carnage in the marriage market. Its easy to stay together when you've reached 20 yrs. Where else are you going to go? But the newer group seems unlikely to make it to the long ones. Just 2 months ago was that article that for the first time in U.S. history there are more single women than married women. Tells you all you need to know.

LOL!! you romantic devil you!

as for that study, i think they counted widows as being single. oh yeah, like those ladies all CHOSE to be single! (well, the ones in jail did!!)

randallscott35 · #64 03-13-2007, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by GPK

Nobody fights for marraiges to last anymore Rand. Divorce is viewed as the easy way out.

In your situation, you could've fighted, right? But sometimes it simply isn't going to work.

randallscott35 · #65 03-13-2007, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Danzig188

LOL!! you romantic devil you!

as for that study, i think they counted widows as being single. oh yeah, like those ladies all CHOSE to be single! (well, the ones in jail did!!)

They chose to stay single after their husband croaked when they could've gone out there and got back on the horse.

GPK · #66 03-13-2007, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by randallscott35

In your situation, you could've fighted, right? But sometimes it simply isn't going to work.

I did fight...for a year...but sooner or later you realize if the other person isn't will to put in the same effort...you simply walk away.

On a brighter note...Honu and I have been talking and we have come to the ideal situation. She is in Cali...I am in VA. It is the IDEAL 3,000 mile apart marriage. She gets the health benefits from my work and I get the 1 time a month sex when we see each other. I can't see any negative in the situation at all

randallscott35 · #67 03-13-2007, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by GPK

I did fight...for a year...but sooner or later you realize if the other person isn't will to put in the same effort...you simply walk away.

On a brighter note...Honu and I have been talking and we have come to the ideal situation. She is in Cali...I am in VA. It is the IDEAL 3,000 mile apart marriage. She gets the health benefits from my work and I get the 1 time a month sex when we see each other. I can't see any negative in the situation at all

The negative is clear to me.

Honu · #68 03-13-2007, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by GPK

I did fight...for a year...but sooner or later you realize if the other person isn't will to put in the same effort...you simply walk away.

On a brighter note...Honu and I have been talking and we have come to the ideal situation. She is in Cali...I am in VA. It is the IDEAL 3,000 mile apart marriage. She gets the health benefits from my work and I get the 1 time a month sex when we see each other. I can't see any negative in the situation at all

And you get into the races for free and I can overdose on Starbucks coffeee lol.

GPK · #69 03-13-2007, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Honu

And you get into the races for free and I can overdose on Starbucks coffeee lol.

just stay the hell away from my beer...and we will be fine

GPK · #70 03-13-2007, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by randallscott35

The negative is clear to me.

Would be more than I am getting now Rand

Honu · #71 03-13-2007, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by GPK

just stay the hell away from my beer...and we will be fine

That would be "OUR" beer.

randallscott35 · #72 03-13-2007, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by GPK

Would be more than I am getting now Rand

Kev, let's not ruin your reputation here. Nobody talks more than you...Don't tell me Superman is dead. I won't hear it.

GPK · #73 03-13-2007, 07:18 PM

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That would be "OUR" beer.

Oh...NOW all of a sudden it is "our" beer.

They name streets after women like you....ONE WAY

GPK · #74 03-13-2007, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by randallscott35

Kev, let's not ruin your reputation here. Nobody talks more than you...Don't tell me Superman is dead. I won't hear it.

Noone talks better than I either Rand. Superman aint dead....maybe on life support...but he aint dead. There is always hope.....

randallscott35 · #75 03-13-2007, 07:20 PM

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Noone talks better than I either Rand. Superman aint dead....maybe on life support...but he aint dead. There is always hope.....

Terry Shiavo=Kev

GPK · #76 03-13-2007, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by randallscott35

Terry Shiavo=Kev

IM not that far gone....

paisjpq · #77 03-13-2007, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by GPK

Oh...NOW all of a sudden it is "our" beer.

They name streets after women like you....ONE WAY

funny that is the street that I live on with my friend Mrs. P

GPK · #78 03-13-2007, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by paisjpq

funny that is the street that I live on with my friend Mrs. P

You two girls INVENTED that street...

randallscott35 · #79 03-13-2007, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by GPK

IM not that far gone....

According to Republicans she was going to wake up at any moment and out and play golf with you.

GPK · #80 03-13-2007, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by randallscott35

According to Republicans she was going to wake up at any moment and out and play golf with you.

She probably would beat me too....