THE ONE FRIGGIN time...

[paisjpq]

Originally Posted by Cajungator26

Well... IMO, she sounds like she's interested. She wouldn't have asked you that question if she wasn't. Take it from a female...

sorry scavs but I get the opposite vibe...girls are not retarded when it comes to figuring out who's interested...it sounds like she was trying to give you an out...but what's to stop a guy from trying, after all she didn't say no...

[timmgirvan]

Originally Posted by Danzig188

i guess that was her 'beat around the bush' way of asking if you're interested in her. i hate when people beat around the bush...er, when they're talking that is.

Yikes! Is it warm in here....or is it just me??

If she is "booked solid" for the next few.... I would say she's not interested. That's a girls way of keeping you away and hoping you forget about her. Of course, her age and intelligence usually tells you whether or not she's playing games. Youngins' like game playing. Mature adults lay it out on the table, are honest and don't "beat around the bush". Unless you like game playing, you should forget about this one and move on to the next one that appreciates the attention you give her.

[SentToStud]

Scav,

There is an entire chapter of the Sent2Stud book titled, "Wine, Women and Wagering," devoted to the topic of what to say when asked a stumper question.

The response is this,

"I was hoping you'd ask me something like that."

You can bet your absolute last dime she will respond, "Why?"

Your response is this,

"I'll tell you later."

This has never failed.

[GPK]

next time you call the professional (me) about this matter...just make sure I am not at the OTB, so I can listen more intently.

[2MinsToPost]

Originally Posted by SentToStud

Scav,

There is an entire chapter of the Sent2Stud book titled, "Wine, Women and Wagering," devoted to the topic of what to say when asked a stumper question.

The response is this,

"I was hoping you'd ask me something like that."

You can bet your absolute last dime she will respond, "Why?"

Your response is this,

"I'll tell you later."

This has never failed.

Curt has listened to Bruce. Gracious. Love that stuff.

[Scav]

Originally Posted by SentToStud

Scav,

There is an entire chapter of the Sent2Stud book titled, "Wine, Women and Wagering," devoted to the topic of what to say when asked a stumper question.

The response is this,

"I was hoping you'd ask me something like that."

You can bet your absolute last dime she will respond, "Why?"

Your response is this,

"I'll tell you later."

This has never failed.

damn it that would been good...the double flirtion method...

[Scav]

I mentioned going to lunch Wednesday on Monday to her...Monday and Tuesday was nice business casual, today she BROUGHT IT, some makeup and skirt with some boots, it was real serious, which is why I think it is flirting and it might go somewhere

[GenuineRisk]

Originally Posted by DaHoss9698

Scav, they're so hard to figure out. Also the older I get, the less I understand, which sucks. Just my two cents, I think she was flirting. Of course you wouldn't have been doing it if she were a guy. Girls know this stuff, for the most part they see through our BS, but they're evil. When they know we like 'em, they really make it hard. They love that game, which sucks because I think most guys hate the game. We're simple creatures.

I disagree, DaHoss.

WarningWarningWaringGrossGeneralizationAboutToFoll ow:

I think you guys THINK you don't love the game, but in fact you LOVE the game, because you all love competition. That's why sports is a multi-billion dollar industry-- men love competition. So we play hard to get so you can keep competing and when you finally hook us, you feel like you won something good. (You know, like how you'll spend oodles of money to win us a stupid stuffed animal at carnivals-- one that you'd never actually just go buy at a toy store-- it's all about the winning it.) If a girl came right out and said, "Sure; you're great; I'm happy to go out with you" then you'd start thinking, "Hmm... that was too easy. Where's the fun in that? What's wrong with her?"

Which is why we girls are most likely to meet a guy when we've decided we're through with men-- then we're REALLY not interested and we must give off some kind of "Really, I'm not interested" pheromone that is just like catnip to guys (guynip?). In that moment, we go from being a stuffed animal for sale at ToysRUs to a stuffed animal hanging up in a carnival booth and if you can just get three baskets...

That said, Scav, if you asked her to do something, and she said she was booked up the next few weekends and didn't give you specifics as to what she was doing, she's probably not interested. Or she's really bad at playing the game, in which case she's not worth your trouble. But hey, you could always ask her out for a weeknight and if she says no, you've got your answer. You're no worse off than if you didn't ask. And then you move on and can focus your energy on someone new. And later when she regrets it, you can smile sympathetically and pat her on the head and go home to your girlfriend.

And if she's not interested and is using you for free lunches, she's a complete a**hole and gives all of us women a bad name. I HATE women who do that.

[GenuineRisk]

Originally Posted by Scav

I mentioned going to lunch Wednesday on Monday to her...Monday and Tuesday was nice business casual, today she BROUGHT IT, some makeup and skirt with some boots, it was real serious, which is why I think it is flirting and it might go somewhere

Then for the love of Pete, ask her to dinner. If she says no, or she's busy or whatever, then you'll know. If she is genuinely busy on the weeknight you suggest, but is interested, she'll probably say, "But I am free on such-and-such night."

I know, easy for the female to say since we're not the ones who have to ask and get rejected. And may I say, kudos to all of you guys for being brave enough to do the asking! If it were left up to people like me, the human race would die out before I got up the nerve...

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by GenuineRisk

Then for the love of Pete, ask her to dinner. If she says no, or she's busy or whatever, then you'll know. If she is genuinely busy on the weeknight you suggest, but is interested, she'll probably say, "But I am free on such-and-such night."

I know, easy for the female to say since we're not the ones who have to ask and get rejected. And may I say, kudos to all of you guys for being brave enough to do the asking! If it were left up to people like me, the human race would die out before I got up the nerve...

Same here! I need the guy to pursue me... I'm too damn shy to make the first move (believe it or not. )

[Cajungator26]

Originally Posted by DaHoss9698

This is dead on. And kudos to you for saying it. I'm kind of a biatch when it comes to asking girls out because it is hard. Check this out, 2 weeks ago I asked a secretary at one of my clients office what they were up to on the weekend. She said she had no plans, and I asked her for her #. She gives it to me, and I called her, and she was sick. I could tell, she sounded sick. So the following week, I asked her again, and she said her and her boyfriend were going away for the weekend. Now, if you have a boyfriend, why in the hell would you give me your number?

Way too many women do that... I never could. I guess she was trying to keep her options open.

[GenuineRisk]

Originally Posted by DaHoss9698

Yeah it was one of the two things I thought. The other was that she was just interested in getting a free meal or some drinks. Not cool.

Oooh.... like I said, the kind that gives all of us women a bad name... grrrr.... you're right; very much not cool.

I was incredibly shy around guys in my single days, too, Cajun. And good heavens, if I actually liked one, I was inarticulate to the point of incoherence. Most embarrassing.

[Samarta]

Oh it's definately a game she's playing....had she not been interested she would have never asked that question because she wouldn't have been sitting across from you at lunch....so now it's time for you to play the game as well....all it is is the thrill of hunt.....the best hunters are the most patient hunters...so step away for awhile and act like you don't give two s*&^s about her busy schedule....but don't step back too far...bust her chops about being so busy from time to time just to let her know the game is on....if she's interested that schedule will have an opening soon...if this doesn't work, call Kev....just not at the otb....

[pmayjr]

Scav,
I feel for you man. I hate when women ask the obvious... I mean the stuff that goes without saying... It's like, are you really gonna make me respond to this? Are you really gonna rake me over the coals like this? Maybe a cute response shoulda been-

"Actually I email sweet nothings to my boss all the time. I also take him to Olive Garden and massage his feety over happy hour at Chilis. So sorry... you're not that only special co-worker"

Tom... my lil Thomas. I know you've been desperately waiting to hear my take on this heffer, and here it is.

First off, you're not smooth. We both know this. But thats what makes you endearing. That and your hobbit-like qualities and your excessive collection of bad porn. Make sure you always stay a lil "quirky". I get bored extremely easy. Once im bored with a guy, its all over. Hell, you've heard the guys around me talk! lol

Secondly, if she says she's booked solid for 3 weeks, thats not a real good sign. If she wants it, she'll make time. I know i once put my dying grandmother to the back burner for this one guy... then again my grandmother isnt dying, but i can wish.

You need to approach her with "me and my buddies host a football and porn party every weekend... you should stop by. we'll bring the chips, you bring the busch". Like they said, no point in beating around the bush, especially if you're like me and dont have one.

And thirdly, do you see yourself marrying her or is this more an attempt to get your dick wet? because if it is, you should make a quick reference to your abnormally large penis... passingly. It works... curiosity killed the pu55y... cat. ask Cajun! lol

Um, other than that... good luck, double wrap, and remember, you always have a friend in pamela HANDerson. ciao lover!

[Scav]

Originally Posted by Balletto

Tom... my lil Thomas. I know you've been desperately waiting to hear my take on this heffer, and here it is.

First off, you're not smooth. We both know this. But thats what makes you endearing. That and your hobbit-like qualities and your excessive collection of bad porn. Make sure you always stay a lil "quirky". I get bored extremely easy. Once im bored with a guy, its all over. Hell, you've heard the guys around me talk! lol

Secondly, if she says she's booked solid for 3 weeks, thats not a real good sign. If she wants it, she'll make time. I know i once put my dying grandmother to the back burner for this one guy... then again my grandmother isnt dying, but i can wish.

You need to approach her with "me and my buddies host a football and porn party every weekend... you should stop by. we'll bring the chips, you bring the busch". Like they said, no point in beating around the bush, especially if you're like me and dont have one.

And thirdly, do you see yourself marrying her or is this more an attempt to get your dick wet? because if it is, you should make a quick reference to your abnormally large penis... passingly. It works... curiosity killed the pu55y... cat. ask Cajun! lol

Um, other than that... good luck, double wrap, and remember, you always have a friend in pamela HANDerson. ciao lover!

1) You know I am smooth, you just don't want to admit it. You are not bored with me because I haven't tried to get into your pants....YET ...a girl like you needs to be finessed, not hardcore smoothness. Quirky is something I will always be

2) She never said she was booked solid, it was more of an observation on my end. I haven't officially asked for a 3rd 'semi-date', if you consider lunch between male and female a date?

3) While this is a good idea, my 'group' is a hard bunch to understand because of the constant sling of ish talking, sometimes 9-10 hours just on one guy and it would be construed as very mean, from experience, it is best to ease new girlfriends/acquintaintance in with friends, appreciate the visual regarding Reggie Bush I had bets out that you were a landing strip girl

4) No idea where it will go, but for me, the whole wetting thing stage is over. All it does it add to a number that I am not too fond of. Regarding my utilities, I appreciate your assumptions greatly but I am packing a couple more then you know what

HOLLLAA

[Cajungator26]

I just want to know how the hell I got brought into this? I was married when I had a kid for Christ's sakes... LOL

Believe me, by then, I wasn't curious... just BORED out of my skull.

If I wasnt so drained from my first midterms i'd be all over this thread... but give me a few hours to re-coup! i'll be back!